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Perfection.

My life is now another step towards being complete. The season finale was so emotionally charged and powerful that I felt like dying. Seeing them finally?kiss together like they did in that episode was just mind blowing. (A part of me thinks that Stana, the actress for Kate Beckett, secretly really wanted to kiss Nathan Fillion for all these years.) I think if the Castle and Beckett pairing has taught me anything is that true love can blossom over time, despite hardships and under the guise of friendship. The thing is, it?s never been just about friendship between these two. There?s always been tension and in my experience, the longer it?s been drawn out, the much more explosive the emotions will become when they finally get their release. I?ve been in my fair share of relationships where you find out that one person likes the other, and vice versa, fairly quickly and then a relationship is pursued. Usually these end in a month or two long relationship. Or perhaps, even long term relationships can come from those meetings. I know that my last ex of four years was definitely a result of that. The feelings die so quickly if the emotions are indulged upon immediately. The one thing that I hated and loved about Castle and Beckett is that they let those feelings brew for three years (four seasons) until they finally came to the same conclusion: they?re madly in love with each other.

I?ve spent the last three years watching Castle as a faithful fan from the very beginning. Now, when it comes to my real life relationships, the longest I usually last for is about four to five years before getting aggravated that it?s going nowhere. When season four hit, I was really starting to get aggravated because they just weren?t focusing on each other properly and still figuring out their emotions. A part of me thought that they?d never, ever fully explore their potentials together and become a couple. But along the way, I realized that they had gone through so much over the years and that they always hit those potholes in the road of life that would shake their relationship/friendship to the very core. They always made it out and became stronger together over time. If they had gotten together immediately, they would?ve ran into so many problems and probably would?ve come out of them with a break-up in mind. It?s never easy being in a relationship with someone else because you?ll always find problems and flaws with your significant other. Eventually, you could end up becoming fed up and bitter with them. But despite these moments, Castle and Beckett have finally prevailed. Their emotions for each other have strengthened over time and have had those opportunities to find out more about the other?s brilliant traits and flaws without having a relationship hang over their heads.

Watching the season finale has made me realize something about relationships and love. I?ve always become so bitter in long term relationships because I?ve always wondered if it could be better if something went wrong. But maybe the issue with people breaking up and having these relationships filled with love crash and burn is because they instantly turned their chemistry and emotions into a relationship when they could?ve been exploring their friendship and tension instead. When you?re not with the person that you really want to be with, you always find yourself striving to be the very best?to be successful and comforting for the person that you want to be with. You notice more from them and you?re never complacent because you?re always trying to get them to be yours. The longer this lasts, the more intense your emotions become. Passion turns into this burning fire that can?t be put out unless they stomp it out or tame it. Problems become amplified but are also solved with intensity because you suddenly want them to smile again, no matter how bad things get. If they can smile again, you feel as if the world would be in its right place again.

When you?re in a long term relationship, the chances of this happening are extremely slim because people get complacent. It?s only when you find the right person with that burning chemistry in their heart that you can actually fan the flames into something much more intense. Watching Castle and Beckett just makes everything I?ve said seem like it?s all true. But finding the right person is a search that always seems impossible to end. I?ll be honest because no relationship I?ve ever been in has ever had the same intensity as Castle and Beckett?s. I?ve always wondered if it was possible to cultivate it over time but this episode, as fictional and unrealistic it might be, has made it even more prevalent to me that such a dream needs to exist in this world in the way I?ve described it.

Perhaps it?s folly on my part to believe that true love could feel this way. Many people go by with loving relationships that aren?t anything like this. In fact, most marriages and relationships go by as normal as they could possibly be where some end in complacency and others end in beautiful romances that are respective to themselves as couples.

But in my mind, I know that true love for me should be this way. It should be a bond and friendship that grows over time to reach such intensity that there?s no other option but to live those lives out together as if there?s no tomorrow.

Because someday?there won?t be.

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